By appointment, Monday-Thursday
My Therapy Hero

We all have heroes. People we admire, an object of adoration, emulation.

We categorize them in genres:  Sports heroes.  Personal heroes.  Spiritual heroes.  Heroes within our given profession or maybe family.

It was in Theories of Counseling, a Master’s level class with Professor Dr. Walter Moody, that I first met my therapy hero: Carl Rogers.  It was upon his theories that I based my final paper and class presentation.

Why a hero?  He was simple, straight-forward, authentic, and believed in the fundamental goodness of people. He believed all people have an inherent desire within themselves to become the best that they could be.  He proposed client-centered therapy in which the therapist merely guides the client in finding his/her own solicitations.  I believed, accepted, and vowed to practice all of the above.

But there is more.  I bonded with Rogerian theory over an idea that he is perhaps best known for within the psychological community: unconditional positive regard.  No matter what a person says or does, the therapist remains accepting.  Non-judgmental.

The concept warmed my soul.  I was unaware of how much this young psychology student, a product of divorced family in a fundamentalist world in 1977 longed for this very message.

Unconditional acceptance, a safe environment in which to share, all people are good.  No shame.  No guilt.  It was a breath of fresh air and I claimed him as my hero.  And I still do.

As we grow and study, we learn that even our heroes don’t have all of the answers.  Throughout my years of practice, I have added much to what I learned from Carl Rogers, but unconditional positive regard will always be a foundation for my practice.  I deserve it. My clients deserve it. Human beings deserve it.