Allow me to begin with a reminder that these blogs are written with the purpose of opening discourse, an encouragement to consider a fresh perspective. They are not research pieces, nor are they ever presented as “The Answer.” Most often ideas spring from discussions I have with clients–especially issues I hear repeatedly. Roughly half of
Last week we defined shame and made the important distinction between shame and guilt. The next step is identifying shame and its origin. Unhealthy, prolonged feelings of shame, cause us to deny and therefore hide. Unwilling to accept the feeling of shame, we repress the message for corrective action. Prolonged denial evolves into secret avoidance.
Our first two blog entries were of an historical nature. Today I turn to the present. I have a personal anecdote to share based upon two of my foundational beliefs. I learn as much from my clients as they do from me; this is an integral part of my experience as a therapist.